Things Every Man Should Possess In A Relationship
Relationship: Communication Skills.
Before we discuss what it means to develop effective communication skills, let’s first start with the basics. Communication involves a speaker, a listener, and information. In other words, it involves activity and actors. I liken communication to children on a seesaw. Without coordination and mutual understanding, someone is bound to get hurt or be uncomfortable.
Communication is deceptively simple. We all listen and talk – but the presumption that we do these things effectively is grossly inaccurate. Body language and verbal language are our primary methods for acquiring and sharing information as humans. And yet, without intentional effort, we fail miserably.
One of the best communication skills in relationships you can use is always speaking about important topics face to face. Texting is certainly not the avenue for having serious relationship conversations or for making big decisions since the tone of voice cannot be determined through text messages.
When either partner is unable to identify and share their feelings or needs, the chance for resolution is eliminated. This is what tears away at the union. Effective communication skills are a combination of skills and strategies that require each person to learn and apply them consistently. These skills will save your relationship from hours of misunderstandings, disagreements, and conflict.
One of the great communication skills in relationships is when you and your partner can talk about the little things as well as the big things. You can strengthen your marriage by talking about your day, your thoughts, or share funny stories from your week.
It is also important to learn to recognize some of the more subtle signs of poor communication. This can include avoiding arguments for the sake of keeping the peace. If you never disagree, it means that one of you is hiding what you really feel or think just to avoid a fight. This deprives you both of experiencing authentic, open, and honest discussions.
Whether you want to discuss something trivial or traumatic, these strategies and principles will help you get your message across. All social attachments and bonds are born from communication, but effective communication skills make the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic one.
Relationship: Common Interests.
Since common interests help you form a deep bond with each other, you’re able to be more vulnerable and open up to each other whenever you need to. You also become a team! When you share the same passions, you can help each other work toward goals and provide support along the way.
From ‘You gotta find common ground!’ to ‘Opposites attract!’, there’s a plethora of contradictory (and often unwanted) advice that couples get when discussing how important are common interests in relationships. While both sides have a point, you will find eventually that the answer to this question cannot be found without a bit of trial and error.
Look at friendships or any non-blood relationships. We choose our friends, especially as we grow older, based on common interests. It is often the starting point for a conversation in any relationship. We know that we could at least talk about this one thing; it could be food, fashion, sport, psychology, even mathematics! Common interests act like a litmus test in the starting of any new connection.
The phrase “opposites attract” is thrown around a lot, and while it may be true to an extent, common interests are the key to a successful relationship! You don’t have to think exactly alike, but sharing common interests, values, and hobbies can significantly increase relationship satisfaction and bring you closer together.
“It depends: Having shared interests a lot of the time makes it easier to have common ground and start to have passionate conversation. But shared interests are not really important. What is important is that you appreciate each other’s interests. Shared interests can be a problem, too, because you feel you are competing with each other. So I don’t ever use it as a criteria.”
Do common interests matter in a relationship? Yes, it does. Two people have to have some level of commonality to find a common ground of existence. Imagine living with someone with whom you cannot agree on what to eat, when to sleep, where to holiday, what shows to watch. Life could turn into a perpetual circle of arguments.
While it seems pretty clear to me that the answer is that yes, common interests are very important in relationships, I was curious to see what men think about the subject. I turned to the AskMen subreddit, where one redditor asked that specific question. And as is usually the case when I pay a visit to Reddit, I was not disappointed.
A Sense of Humor.
Goofiness. Having fun together and cracking up so much you snort-laugh is important in any relationship. The ability to goof off, act like an idiot and show your vulnerabilities is something you should definitely have in common. If they’re super serious and you’re all about doing skits, funny voices and cracking out dance routines at any given moment, chances are they’ll find you annoying AF.
Love of chilling. Love putting on your baked bean-stained tracksuit and watching an entire series of RuPaul’s Drag Race while trying to recreate Sharon Needles’ spookiest make up look? You better hope they do too, because if they’re all boisterous and raring to go on a 15-mile hike on a Sunday morning (and have a complete inability to just chill the f out sometimes) the only option is to dump them ASAP.
A guy with a good sense of humor is the life of every party. He is liked by people and he provides entertainment wherever he goes. So the advantage here is that this guy will be loved by your family and friends. Everybody from your social circle love to be around him.
Compassion. I’m the kind of person who cries at every single thing I see on TV. A dad’s proud of his daughter for coming first in her science fair? I’m a goner. A couple in their 80s explain it’s laughter that’s kept them together all these years? I’m a complete mess. My ex used to say I was weird and broken for showing emotion for people I’d never met, and that, pals, is why he’s an ex.
In a nutshell, the above points constitute actions you should take in order to share the same sense of humor with your partner. Humor is very important because all types of relationships require it. It spreads positivity. Furthermore, it is good to spend your life with someone who understands and can relate to your sense of humor.
Willingness to learn and grow. Right, I know this sounds like ‘hippy bullshit’ but bear with me. Anyone wanting a happy and fulfilling relationship must be willing to learn from their mistakes, evolve and grow together because otherwise you’re basically just two separate people going about your lives in weird unison.
This result may highlight sex differences in light of sexual selection, where higher reproduction costs for women (being pregnant, breastfeeding, shorter reproductive window) make them choosier than men. In contrast, men with good senses of humor may signal their intelligence, creativity, warmth, and how friendly they are — traits that are important in any relationship, especially romantic ones, and are more valuable for women.
