Sex Tips: How Can Someone Keep His/her Mind Off Sex?
I find myself thinking about girls all the time even when they’re not around me. Its ridiculous right?, Sometimes I can’t even concentrate, while i spend much time daydreaming about the opposite sex? These thoughts can consume you. they can make you take the long route to your car just to pass a cute girl or get you walk down a store when you don’t really need to, but because you just want to take a look at someone.
Remember, though, that sexual feelings aren’t evil in themselves. after all, God created man and woman to have a strong attraction for each other, and satisfying sexual desire is proper within the marriage arrangement. While you are still single you may experience intense sexual urges. if this happens, don’t think about you’re inherently bad or that you’re just not cut out for moral cleanness. You can be chaste if you choose to be! but being successful at your endeavor will require that you keep thoughts about the opposite sex under control.. So how can i keep my mind of sex?
Exercize.
Write a long letter to your ex about how you feel, why you’re hurt, what you wanted from them, etc. without ever sending it. Sometimes just getting it all out on paper as if you’re actually talking to this person will be what you need. It may also be helpful to talk to a counselor or therapist to help breakdown the problems with a licensed professional instead of your ex.
The moment any sexual thoughts arise within, pluck it immediately and throw it away. The plant of sex is the only one which if it becomes a little bigger, then it will not leave. Hence it needs to be pulled out from its very roots the moment it sprouts. Physical activity is one of the healthiest ways to control and manage a range of feelings and emotions, including the urge to have sex. Exercise regularly to combat sexual energy, or head to the nearest park or gym as soon as you start experiencing these feelings.
Read a book.
Clearing your mind through meditation or mindfulness. Don’t give up if this is very challenging at first! It is for most people. Have faith that it will get easier with practice. If you have a spiritual practice, you could also try prayer to help you focus your mind and get spiritual support.
Tell a trusted friend about your problem. As terrifying as this may sound, it is one of the most powerful and effective approaches. If you are lucky enough to know someone who is not judgmental and will understand and appreciate your goal, talk to them about how you are doing. Having a frank conversation when you feel compelled to think or act in ways you would rather not can be a reassuring source on ongoing support.
One of the things that has helped me is setting boundaries. With the help of friends who are aware and are spiritually alert too, keeping to those boundaries can be easier. You mentioned some of them. Boundaries phone calls with brothers, movies( I love movies eh)., books sef. I once picked a book with a wonderful title only for me to start reading eh, my mind was just going different places.
I sharply sharply throw way the book inside trash. Since then, as soon as I pick a book, I ask the Holy Spirit, is this a book I should read? This has been helpful. With movies, I stopped watching certain movies. Just Christian movies. I am very visual, anything I watch last with me. I may not be able to remember titles but scenes from a movie stick. So I am careful with this. One other thing is making a conscious effort to let others around me know my stand. This has helped too. The best is the Holy Spirit, as you pointed out, being sensitive to the leading of the Spirit, discerning and allowing the word of God to be the guide in all that we do is worth more than making mistakes and learning from them.
Watch a movie.
You’ll want to create a private file on your phone—whether via an app, the Notes tab, or a camera album—to compile a bunch of things that turn you on for moments like this. “Pop in your earbuds and listen to hot sounds while you scroll through words and pictures that do it for you,” suggests Miles. “Add to it whenever the urge organically arrives.”
Go to a show or exhibit. This will keep your mind occupied with other things and could be a lot of fun. Going with friends is even better as they can further distract you. Plus, you can talk with them about the event afterward and what you thought of it.
“Turn on some great music, pour a glass of your favorite wine, and put pen to paper. Once you begin to permit yourself to acknowledge the thought, feel the thought, and write it down, it is amazing how much better you feel,” says matchmaker Jaida Pervis.
